Feeling stressed out? Do you feel like your family, friends, job, health, relationships, and education are constantly making you anxious? Have you ever wondered why? It isn’t solely them, that are stressing you out, it is, in fact, your own ideas and expectations which make you feel as if you’re losing your grip on things.
From the very beginning, we’ve trained ourselves to set certain standards and ideals about the way in which things should take place. What we fail to understand is, that the world we live in isn’t perfect and that everything does not always go as planned. More often, than not life takes its own course no matter how hard you try to control it. This urge within us to constantly ensure that our lives meet our ideals instead of reality leads to anxiety and stress which of course is followed by drama.
Let me tell you a simple exercise which will help you to relax and escape the drama in your life.
Whenever you feel anxious or nervous or frustrated, don’t dismiss the feeling. Instead, pay attention to it and try to understand exactly in which part of your body you are feeling it. Focus on how it is affecting your body and your mind.
Take in a deep breath and breathe out again, slowly. Repeat this, and while you do so, focus on each breath. Feel yourself beginning to relax. As you feel the tension in your body and mind easing away, focus on the peacefulness and goodness of this moment and the peacefulness and joy within you. You can practice this, anywhere, at any time to drive away from the drama which revolves around your life and let peace and happiness replace it.
However, this is much easier said than done. So here are a few things you can tell yourself when you feel yourself being surrounded by drama.
- Learn to accept life as it is, don’t let it make you feel unhappy.
- Don’t be too hard on yourself when you make mistakes. That’s how you learn.
- Try not to judge others. Everyone’s got their own share of problems which you might be unaware of. If you can’t say something nice, it’s alright to not say anything at all.
- Don’t waste your time and energy overthinking about whether there will be problems. They will be there, it’s a part of life. What is important is how we perceive them.
- Do your best to focus on how things may go well, instead of focusing on how they may not.
- The drama in your life doesn’t come into it on its own. We create it. And that means we also have the power to avoid it.
- Be mindful of change and learn to accept it. You may not be able to change every situation you are faced with. There are times when you will have to change yourself.
- It will be tough but, work hard in silence. Let who you define you.
- Don’t overwhelm yourself by the enormity of it all, instead focus on completing one step at a time.
- Letting go of the drama in your life does not mean that you are leaving the past behind, it means that you are strong enough to enjoy the present.
So, the next time you feel yourself stressing over the drama in your life, keep reminding yourself that you are in control and don’t let drama take over!